Dont Worry Be Happy

Don’t Worry Be Happy

How many times have you worried about things that never came to pass? I call these ghost worries and I’ve had my share in the past. As the Bobby McFerrin song goes “Don’t Worry Be Happy“. I have to admit, I enjoy being positive and happy. It’s much better than the alternative. Here’s how I approach it.

Be Happy Free Your Mind

Be Happy: Free Your Mind

We all get worked up about things in life. Our job is a big contributor. We think about all of the things that can go wrong with customers, peers, and management. If you are running your own business, you are probably worrying about revenue, paying your employees, the next sale, and your exit strategy.

When we built our business, I had a laundry list of things I regularly worried about that never came true. If only I would have had the fortitude to put those thoughts to the back of my mind, it would have saved a lot of strife. Fast forward 16 years after I started my business, I realize how unfounded that worry was. I am happy, it all worked out OK.

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Since then, I’ve learned to free my mind of worry. If worry begins to bottle up, here is how I address it:

  • Find a quiet spot and sit with my eyes closed
  • Focus on removing all negative thoughts, be mindful of happy thoughts
  • Stay still for 10 minutes practicing removing the negative thoughts

Be happy by hanging out with positive people

Be Happy: Hang Out with Positive People

People can bring drama into your life or they can be incredibly encouraging. Why deal with drama? Life’s too short. So how do you find people that are positive and happy? Start by being positive yourself. Here’s how:

  • When you see people, give them a smile and say hello
  • Do something special for someone without expecting anything in return
  • Listen intently when talking with friends, put your phone away
  • Provide advice when asked and be supportive
  • Be truly happy for your friends when great things happen in their life

You’ll find that the more positive energy you emit, the more that is returned to you. Before long, you will be attracting only positive people, so the negative people will simply fall by the wayside.

Be Happy and dont worry about things outside of your control

Don’t Worry About Things Outside of Your Control

We all have spears of control. For example, I can control my health by not smoking, exercising, and eating healthy. However, some things are totally outside of my control. For example, I can’t control taxes, how a particular senator votes or how a specific person feels about me (in fact, it’s really none of my business how someone else thinks of me, it’s their own personal thought that belongs only to them).

For things I can’t control, I don’t spend time worrying about them. Complaining to my neighbor or friend about taxes, the government or a rumor I heard about someone is a waste of time. I can’t change it, therefore, I’m not going to spend energy worrying about it.

Instead, I spend my time focusing on things I can control: my health, being happy, my financial situation, and my relationships. Those are things that deserve my attention.

Tell Me About Your Experiences

Drop me a comment to let me know how you’ve focused on being happy and becoming worry free. What tips have you find that worked well? How has it affected your life?

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14 thoughts on “Don’t Worry Be Happy

  1. LeisureFreak Tommy

    I like to sometimes do things a little unorthodox or outside what others would do, Call it my creative outlet and need to express myself. I will then worry about criticism and rejection, of being mocked or made fun of. This worry will give me pause and cause delay but in the end I come up with a better plan and do it anyway. I know I can’t please everyone and my actions or results may be misinterpreted or dismissed. What I can do is do the best I possibly can to where I am proud of the results. I find that doing something is always better than doing nothing and reminding myself of that is what gets me past any worry. If what I try to do doesn’t meet my standards then I learned something along the way and that in itself has value. If I pull it off where it pleases me then I end up not giving a sh!+ what anyone else thinks anyway. Like you say, why worry. Great post!
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    1. Steve Miller Post author

      Being creative and unorthodox is one of the things that make you unique, Tommy. You’re right, you will never please everyone but if you are proud of what you do, that’s all that really matters. All the best!

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  2. Jessica @ Too Many Lattes

    This is fantastic, thank you for posting! I love the idea of sitting with your thoughts for ten minutes. It’s much more accessible to me than “meditate for an hour a day” or “practice mindfulness every second of every day.”

    I agree that not worrying about things outside of your control is hugely important. Are you familiar with the Stoic philosophy? I first learned the lesson about separating things into what you can and can’t control after reading A Guide To The Good Life by William Irvine. Great primer on Stoicisim.
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    1. Steve Miller Post author

      Hi Jessica, not familiar with the Stoic philosophy but it sounds like I should read up on it. Yes, just taking 10 minutes for quiet reflection works better for me than an hour of meditation. Thanks from dropping by.

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  6. Choosamazing

    Great article! 10 minutes a day of relaxation/meditation does wonders. So does focusing on the positive things in life. Just smiling makes you feel better and relaxes the mind. Life is supposed to be enjoyed, so let’s all focus on the good things 🙂

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